Today was a hard day.
Late last night we got a call that the son of a family friend had taken their own life.
The news didn’t sink in until I woke up this morning.
Then I fell, hard, on the way to the coffee machine, broke a bookshelf on the way down and got buried by the stuff that fell off it. No real damage (to me) but some pretty serious bruising and pain.
Then someone I care greatly about is dealing with a really bad situation and needs to get themselves and kids out said situation.
It was a really hard day.
And maybe you had a hard day too.
Maybe your’s was way worse.
But hard days happen.
Really bad terrible things will happen.
How will you react when things happen to you?
Many say “you need to be brave and face it head on!” or “with a smile!” or some other useless thing.
The truth is, we don’t know how we’ll react because every one of us is different, every happenstance is different, every thing is different.
Maybe when you have a bad day you’ll be able to stand.
Maybe you’ll get kicked on your kiester.
Maybe you’ll curl up under your blankets and do nothing.
But guess what?
None of those things is wrong. None of those reactions is wrong. Your reaction to a bad day is not wrong.
It is YOUR reaction.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to smile or be brave. Those might be true things that you need to do, but your initial reaction is not wrong. You are entitle to your feelings.
You’re welcome to be brave.
Or fall apart.
Or be angry.
Do what you need to do to get through the day.
Then, if you need to, fix the things you can fix.
Or let go of the things that you can’t.
Or whatever you need to do to put it behind you.
But don’t let anyone tell you that you’re doing it wrong.