Thoughts And Prayers. Again. And Again. And… (Love Anyway Blog)

Every time children die, it comes up. Thoughts and prayers. And we spend a lot of time talking about thoughts and prayers. So much time talking about thoughts and prayers that we stop talking about dead children to support/ridicule anyone that says “thoughts and prayers”.

I believe in prayer. “Thoughts” and “positive vibes” and things like that – that’s not in my wheelhouse, so I’ll let someone else address that. I believe in God. So I pray. And I know prayer works. Prayer DOES stuff. But my subjective experience is hardly objective proof, so I won’t spend time trying to convince you. It’s enough for me to know that it works, you don’t have to agree.

And when children die, I pray. I pray for the families, I pray for the victims, I pray for the first responders, I pray for those that work with children.

To me, prayer, in times of crisis, and any time, all the time, is important.

But prayer (or thoughts, or vibes or whatever your belief) alone is not enough.

First your pray, and then you do. That’s how prayer works. Pope Francis said “You pray for the hungry, then you feed them, that’s how prayer works”.

And when children die, you pray for the victims and their families, you pray for them, then you work to prevent more victims. That’s how prayer works.

Prayer without the belief and action to back it up is meaningless.

In His model of prayer, the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus shows us that’s how it’s supposed to be. “Fogive us… as we forgive others…”. That shows there is ACTION we are supposed to take along with our prayer.


As I write this, one of the social media stories trending is from Florida. Less than a month ago in Parkland FL, 17 more children died. Today there is video of a Florida legislator saying “thoughts and prayer are the ONLY thing that will stop the evil…” and they just blocked a bill to strengthen gun control and also voted to arm teachers in public schools.  Their actions show the complete OPPOSITE of their ‘thoughts and prayers’. And as a result, more children will die.


If you honestly want less children to die, if that is your honest prayer, then you need to DO something. And not just something, everything, every avenue. Gun control, background checks, mental health support, anything and everything. I don’t care your stance on the Second Amendment. If you honestly don’t want dead children, put the second amendment away and ACT. Pray, then ACT.

That is how it works.

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